My mother is not saying much about what happened but I do know she is crying and upset, same with my sister. My mother is extremely upset that the mother-in-law yelled at her. She probably should not have gotten involved but then again I wasn't there. From what I gathered they were fighting over my sister's wedding week where all the family was in Seattle celebrating. Well sort of celebrating there was a lot of drama between my mother and I as well as my mother and sister. Mean things were said and done. A lot of hurt feelings on every side. Something that should have been memorable in a happy sense has sort of a bad taste to it.
I do not want to throw my mother under the bus but in recent years she has been unable to handle confrontation. She runs from it or turns to hurtful words. Of course people sometimes do that but when your mother does it it can sting a bit harder. I texted both of them to tell them they should work it out while still near each other. It would be much harder to work things out so many miles away then there in person.
While typing this post I received a text from my sister saying she talked to my mom. That's basically all it said. I'm hoping that means things are better between them but I wont know till a later time. You are probably wondering why I would share such personal information and it's for a couple of reasons. One being that it's nice to know you aren't the only person who has fights or family drama. It's normal and totally not fun. Another reason is maybe you can take something useful away from it. It's hard for me that my close family is fighting and so upset and I'm so far away.
My advice if you are having family, friend, work, or any kind of drama is to meet with the person you are fighting with. Come together knowing that each of you will say your peace. When you are sitting with this person let them say their feelings, they are entitled to them even if you disagree. After they say their peace say yours and they should not interrupt you. After you say your peace make a plan to move forward. Don't have a plan? Just leave all the drama behind you. You said what you wanted to and they said what they wanted to. Move forward! It's not easy but it will get easier and is so much better than holding a grudge or feeling bad.
If you are having a hard time with someone the best solution is to take care of it and not let it fester in you. Try to reach out to fix the problem so you can both move on to a happier life. If it's unsuccessful at least you know you tried your best.
Hope you all are having a better night!
